I am the MOB Part 2

Helen Mirren is currently doing it for me as a red carpet inspiration so that my Mum looks like gorgeous and flattered and not a hint of polyester floral with lilac jacket hideous...

The regular themes are

• skimming but not tight fabrics
• fluid rather than stiff fabrics
• shimmering colours and textures that are pale without being insipid
• an emphasis on her assets: her forearms and her decolletage rather than her ankles or upper arms.

Now... if only we could find a pattern that would do the same thing. Suggestions on a postcard...

Credentials

This is slightly off-piste, but Michelle has been impressed in the comments that I am brave enough to make my dress (or at least have it made for me by my mum). While I love a bit of stitching for myself, I am of the 'botch it to get it done in time to go out in' school of seamstress.

My fair mum, on the other hand, has couture dressmaking flowing in her veins. To show you how I have not a worry in the world, herewith some demostrations of talent...

For my brother's wedding she made the baby bridesmaids and pageboy waistcoats...

Her own outfit and my sister in jade (I made my gold number but the fit was never quite right - the day in July was about 36 degrees too which didn't help!)

The bows at the back of the girls was my favourite touch of the whole day...

My cousin's wedding dress the following January (left) was silk satin with an internal corset and a lace bodice that was only revealed after the fur wrap was removed.

My dress is going to gorgeous, and fit me, and be made by my mum.

I can't wait!

I'll give you a hint: it's from the Vintage Pronovias collection...

Busy Busy

A successful weekend has passed with more decisions made and jobs ticked off. I went back to my hometown of Cheltenham for a girlie weekend with my Mum while the Boy worked most of the hours available to him (and some that weren't!).

First on the list of jobs was the first fitting of the toile for my dress. (See this helpful site for an explanation.) I'm afraid modesty (!) prevents me from explaining the design in any great detail, but suffice to say that we have managed to find a few patterns to replicate the ready-to-wear design that we have fallen in love with from Pronovias and the fitting went without hitch. Corset and toile will go back to the sewing machine for fitting number 2 in a fortnight's time.

Also had a flit around the wedding shops in Cheltenham for a scope of the shoe possibilities out there (a resounding BLEURGH) and enjoyed coffee, chats and general merriment.

Other completed jobs include selecting the blue silk from Angus International for bridesmaids' dresses and sashes, sourcing a company to make ties for us from said silk, and approving the waistcoats and shrugs that Mum has been lovingly stitching for the wedding party. She is a very talented little bunny and I really could not have pulled this together without her. Thank god for retired Mums!

On an aside, I have had a comment from one of your fair selves requesting a wedding night underwear suggestion. I am compiling my thoughts and will hopefully post by the weekend. Thanks for your patience and in the meantime, have a browse on Figleaves if you have not done already. A huge selection and very helpful searching facility should make light work of your plight. xx

Smashing Plates

I thought the request was straightforward. I thought I would be able to identify the design of my dreams within a moment of entering the crockery department. I thought that it would be easy, satisfying and exhilerating.

I am only just now recovering from the strain of the exercise and remain without a chosen set of crockery.

I had hoped to find:

• Crockery that would be suitable for daily use as well as for more formal dinner party occassions
• Some design-added feature such as an interesting print, a handmade quality or a textured finish that would take it away from the normal white run of the mill set
• Nothing with a silver or gold plain stripe on it

The Boy's only two stipulations were that it be not too girly and that he be comfortable eating a pizza off the chosen set.

After 50 minutes of a two hour consultation with no decision and a week of frantic internet surfing under my belt, I can confirm that we have narrowed down the options to the following SEVEN:

Farmhouse Chic by the Johnson Bros at Wedgwood with mix and match designs (I like this pairing but it's a bit feminine for the Boy and I'm not sure it's elegant enough for grand dining)

Filets Bleu (left) or Hortensia (right) at Gien

Blue Denmark from Wedgwood or Old Luxembourg by Villeroy & Boch

Cottage Blue or Country Heritage by Villeroy & Boch

Any preference? Any other suggestions? Any advice??

Save yourselves...

Save the Dates are out and in the open...

Cooling from the printer...

With envelopes printed ready to go!

Fly well my little angels!

Listings

As a lover of all things handmade and/or British-designed as well as all things vintage choosing somewhere to host our wedding list was actually quite a problem. We knew we didn't just want the basics from a normal department store: I'm such a homebunny that I've been asking for duvets and mixing bowls for birthdays and Christmases since the age of 17.

So I was delighted when I read about the service offered by Wrapit, an online gift list company with a select few physical stores dotted around the country, which stocks over 30,000 products from 350 designers, including companies like The White Company and Robert Welch, both of whom were bound to figure highly in our list.

We made an appointment to go to their West End store yesterday for a two hour session to set up the registry and have a look at a fraction of their available selection. I can now confidently affirm...

Kitchen Aid CHECK

Pots and Pans CHECK

Robert Welch Radford Cutlery CHECK

The disgustingly young and excrutiatingly talented Lisa Stickley teatowels and duvet set CHECK

We did, however, come acroppa on the subject of crockery...

But that story will be left for another day...

Weddingbee Wonders

For a community forum the Weddingbee wonder is really a very useful wedding planning resource. I read it devotedly when I was unengaged but since starting to plan my own nuptials it has become more useful as a tool for ideas than for the interest in reading about other celebrations themselves.

For example, I was searching for a piece of classical music that had interest and tempo but wasn't one of the tried and tested traditional wedding march works. Google it into the Weddingbee search facility and I came up with this post. Got me to YouTube and fell in love with this piece.

Hey presto, my walking up the aisle music is chosen...

This ideas factory helped again when designing our invitations. The Boy had chosen a script font that I was not quite into although it worked perfectly fine. I had a quick google on the boards and sure enough, found a script that won't break the bank but does make me happy.

Outfits for a Winter Wedding

As the winter wedding continues, I am failing to convince my friends (who are now known as 'guests' in most conversations with the Boy) that they could be frugal and purchase their outfits for our wedding in the Christmas sales this year. Needless to say, the day is not even close to as important to them as it is to me and they find my 10 month pre-planning faintly ridiculous.

I care not a jot and herewith offer them advice.

The above page is taken from October Vogue's supplement (provided by Next - bleurgh but occassionally hmmmm in my humble opinion...) and offers some cute suggestions of non-black but wintery and warm looking outfits with coverups that go beyond the regulation pashmina.

For a winter wedding I would suggest the following considerations:

Layers of glam and warmth: sequins with cashmere, brocades with fur, satin and velvet in rich jewel colours

Chunky heels and warm tights will ensure that frost, rain or snow will be of little concern. Stilettos and straps are probably best left in the wardrobe for this one.

I got very excited about the new Hobbs shoppable website, particularly with the sale starting today. I've been disappointed to find, though, that they've not quite finished debugging it and clicking on flat shoes (oh the shame) inexplicably takes you to jewellery and miniskirts....

They have, though, put together an outfit finder and suggest this rather lovely affair for a winter wedding.

Once they sort out their searches and metadata this should be a veritable treasure trove of luxurious but suitably demure glam for a cold and frosty nuptial.

Bits and Bobs Catchup

As you may have seen over at Beholden, I've been rather busy recently climbing mountains and the whole wedding planning malarchy has rather gone out the window. However, I am now safely esconced back at sea level and normal activities will resume shortly.

Newsflash is that the photographer has been chosen: the wonderfully bubbly and enthusiastic Evelyne Wade was so excited, flexible, approachable and reasonably priced that we just couldn't resist. The other great bonus is that she has shot at our venue before so knows the layout and lighting conditions better than we do. This is a small selection of her work that I have taken from her website, however, the site doesn't do justice to the portrait and guest images that she is capable of taking.

Ranuncula Loving

From ArtFool's inspirational gallery, via The Bride's Cafe (more bouquets tomorrow). If we tone down the yellow vibe here and replace the berry strands with the purpley blue berries I like, we're getting somewhere. So crisp and full and fresh.

Yum Yum Yum.

Jennifer Behr Blooms

This makes me very happy. It has a density to it that doesn't feel overly false and the cream is rich and satisfying.

Just the sort of hair I was thinking, though more messy bun than fancy twisted shenanigans.

Will be investigating US stockists forthwith for my trip in the spring. Definitely want to see this in the flesh.

Janie Medley = Scrumptious

Loving the wreath work of Janie Medley and her new blog The Brides' Cafe. These wreaths have a really dense weight to them that makes me happy without them feeling solid and fake. I think the scale of them really works too: we're struggling to work out how very big the wreath at the end of our ginormous barn should be so as not to be lost above our 'altar'. These feel like they could work well, even so far as to be packed out with silk flowers and primped with a few fresh blooms on the day to prevent excessive wilting.

Yum Yum Janie! Keep up the good work!

Bouquet Spotting

Walking along the beautiful Shad Thames on my way to work this morning I spied something rather delicious. No it was not the Conran cakes nor the gift shop stocking Burts Bees.

It was the Shad Thames florist and their display of wares. They make the most gorgeous bouquets and are the only place that I splurge on flowers. £30 for exquisite bundles of the most extraordinary colour combinations and designs that trump Columbia Road cheapness in their style and display.

And what did I spy this morning? A bouquet of crisp navy and whites! Of course I didn't have my camera with me this morning (that would be too easy) and I'm off to the train station this evening for a weekend away so buying it didn't seem very sensible. Instead, I took notes and promised to return next week. Googling the notes has brought me this combination of colours and I'm delighted to say that it worked. It worked beautifully.

And suddenly I've got butterflies.

Above: Vibernum berries, white agapanthus, anenome and ranunculas.

Navy+Patent+Leather+£20=SMUG BRIDE

One job down, 4,218,838 jobs to go. The gorgeous loveliness above ticks every box I had in my head for the older girls:

• comfortable heel height without stilleto or kitten heel (bleurgh)
• round toe without scary points or harsh angles
• ankle strap for comfort and ease of style
• navy
• not satin

Of course, at £20 a pair, these sort out the Sister and the Best Friend in one fell swoop.

The fact that they are now online at £25 a pair just ups the smug factor another iota. Hoorah for forward planning!

A good catch

Bouquets bemuse me... It seems a strange thing to want to carry around and is actually only in your hands for the walk down the aisle before it gets left with a bridesmaid and then (most likely) left on a table somewhere before you actively throw it away…

Difficult to deny the beauty of this one, taken from the site of designer wedding planner Rebecca Thuss.

And anyway, I’m such a fidget, it’s probably best to have something to carry rather than wringing my hands or hitching at my skirt with anticipation and nerves.

Maybe that’s all that they’re actually there for....

Hmmm. That's a thought for a Monday morning...

Garden Arbours and Aisles

Some images to inspire your garden wedding. Loving the bamboo aisle, the arbour and the tealit path...

Sadly not exactly ideal for a frosty November afternoon, but a girl can dream!

I fear all these pictures were stored in my 'I Love' file long before I thought I'd share them with the world. Apologies for not being able to author them: do get in touch if you know where they are from!

One Year Today

The Boy and I will be wed in 365 days and four hours. The weather today is pretty grey-skied but fresh clean air and not an ounce of mugginess. This week, if the sky has been clear, it has been crisp with a frosty chill to the air. If the sky has been overcast, the weather has been somewhat milder but not damp or oppressive.Despite rather anxious dreams involving bad photographers and chipped nail polish on my wedding day, I am absolutely overjoyed that I can now count the days to the start of my married life in months rather than years.

Wreaths of glory

Achingly beautiful wreath inspiration from the annals of US Brides Magazine...

Just the thing for adorning barn columns and doors at a winter-y wedding, don't you think?

Bridesmaids Dresses Head to Head: THE FINAL

So, what do you do when you have scoured the pattern books, scoured the shop racks, scoured the blogs, the websites and the magazines, tried on many samples 'just to see' with your bridesmaids and finally, achingly, very nearly, got it down to two contenders?

You have a head-to-head...

Vogue Patterns 8416 vs Vogue Patterns 8285

8416:

Pros: Interesting neckline, princess seams, full-ish skirt suitable for heavy silk dupion fabric

Cons: Would it look strange without the sleeves?

8285:

Pros: Gathering detail underbust and shoulder seams would flatter both chest sizes of my two bridemaids, slightly fuller skirt would create gravitas, organza insert could be used in place of ribbon to echo organza that *might* be in my dress and hide from rather gorgeous bustline of my fair sister

Cons: The rather gorgeous bustline of my fair sister could be in jeopardy with such a low v if the organza doesn't do its job properly..., and it risks looking like another v-neck empire line bridesmaid dress with little or nothing to commend it...

And if you're still not sure?

You send in the Boy armed with Photoshop to do his worst...

And the winner is...

Vogue 8416 in all its sleeveless navy silk dupion glory!!!

Phew, one more decision down, only 11249731204912 more to go...

A Web Work in Progress

So all you get for now is a screen shot of our homepage...

Isn't the Boy clever?!

Tewin Bury Farm Hertfordshire

Our first barn, our first foray into the wedding service proper...

As you drive into the farm complex, you are greeted by a parking area to the right, a small bridge over the River Momra and an elaborate sign directing you variously to the Restaurant, Hotel Reception, four spaces available to hire and appropriate further parking for each of these venues. There is space on the signs for A4 sheets for the names of each party (eg 'Adam & Eve's Wedding') so there is no doubt for your guests. I have to admit to finding this rather off-putting, if informative, betraying the breadth of facilities offered by this highly competent and efficient venue, but slightly de-romanticising the occassion as you realise just how much of a succesful business has been achieved here.

The barn space, pictured above, is beautifully restored and perfectly self-contained. The barn itself seats 120 with seating for a further 30 split between the balcony and a side-area divided by open beams from the main space. The outside space (exclusively yours during the hire time) is well-manicured including a gorgeous little bridge over the main mill-wheel in the river and also a separate bar area that could act as the 'quiet zone' for those who may tire of the festivities later in the evening.

The on-site restaurant and the hotel rooms (from which the business developed) are both at a high standard and certainly would be welcoming and relaxing for guests.

We decided, however, that the proximity to other celebrations and the fact that our pushing 140 guests may be divided around the space, were not quite suited to our visions.

The search continued...

Images taken from our own site-visit. More details and further information available from the slick and helpful website.